Babyproofing Your Marriage: How to Laugh More, Argue Less and Communicate Better as Your Family Grows, by Stacie Cockrell, Cathy O’Neill and Julia Stone
A groundbreaking, no-holds barred book about the impact parenthood has on marriage has been written by three Austin women, one of whom is a former TCWLA board member (Cathy O’Neill).
No one wants to say it, but everyone knows it’s true: having babies and parenting small children can be pretty tough on a marriage. Written by three girlfriends, wives and mothers and fueled by conversations with hundreds of men and women accross the country, Babyproofing Your Marriage explores both sides of the post-baby relationship divide and offers simple but effective ways husbands and wives can bridge the gap and reconnect with one another — so that having children doesn’t mean sacrificing being a couple.
The book takes on the most contentious issues: the tit-for-tat arguments over the division of labor (scorekeeping), managing the demands of the in-laws and outlaws, the oxymoron of the family vacation, and perhaps that most combustible of all post-baby squabbles – the dwindling sex life (otherwise known as the Hound Dog/Ice Queen Vortex).
With its down-to-earth humor and balanced perspective, this book will show couples of small kids that despite disagreements about who’s getting up in the middle of the night (a.k.a. Midnight Chicken), or who’s doing (or not doing) what to whom in the bedroom, it is indeed possible to create the kind of happy family life we all want.
Babyproofing Your Marriage is published by Harper Collins and is available in stores now. To read excerpts from the book and/ororder online go to www.babyproofingyourmarriage.com.
FROM THE PRESIDENT
Well, 2007hasgottenofftoanamazingstartforTCWLAandwearekeepingtheballrollingthismonth. February promises to bean exciting month.
We are hosting a big party for the members of our local judiciary, enjoying each other’s company, and meeting influential members ofourcommunity. WearehearingfromaTCWLAmemberandnewauthoratourmonthlymeeting,commiseratingaboutour struggles at home and at work, and laughing about our commonalties. We are accepting nominations for attorney awards and application for grants to non-profits — celebrating our fellow achievers, and supporting equal access to justice for women, children and families in our community.
Throughout all of those special events this month, we continue to welcome new and renewing members to the organization from our ongoing membership drive, making new friends and establishing future business connections. We are also continuing to gather volunteers for our special initiative to provide pro bono legal services to breast cancer patients. On the Foundation front, we are shifting into high gear in planning our annual awards and grants luncheon which is set for June 13th.
Whew! We are one busy group of women. …so many opportunities to thrive among so many dynamic people…. I hope you can join us and take advantage of our collective energy and momentum. See you in February!
TCWLA Membership has its privileges!
It is that time of year again – Travis County Women Lawyers Association annual membership drive. Please renew or join today by filling out and mailing in the attached membership form with your $40 annual dues, or see www.tcwla.org for payment by PayPal/credit card.
TCWLA is a diverse group of women lawyers who practice in Travis County. The benefits of membership, to name a few, are:
• Our annual Judicial Reception on February 15, 2006, honoring our local judiciary at Green Pastures
Restaurant in South Austin.
• Free Monthly Meetings and FREE CLE – In March, we will have a CLE on a criminal law topic and on February 22, 2006, our speaker will be Cathy O’Neill, a former TCWLA board member and author of a terrific new book called Babyproofing Your Marriage: How to Laugh More, Argue Less, and Communicate Better as Your Family Grows.
• Our annual TCWLA Awards Luncheon on June 13, 2007, where we recognize our 2007 scholarship recipients, award grants to non-profit organizations in Travis County that provide direct legal services to women and children in need, and present awards to female attorneys practicing in Travis County who have achieved professional milestones during the past year.
• MORE CLE – upcoming events: a spring CLE seminar for attorneys representing children and parents in Child Protective Services cases and continued rental of our DVD CLE program entitled “A Day in Federal Court: An Introduction to Federal Court Practice.
• Fellowship, business referrals, networking, support systems, pro bono opportunities, giving back to the community, general camaraderie…
For more information about TCWLA, log onto our website at www.tcwla.org or feel free to contact a boardmember. We are looking forward to seeing you in 2007!
LAWYERS FOR WOMEN FIGHTING BREAST CANCER
TCWLA would like to thank the following members for volunteering for the Lawyers for Women fighting Breast Cancer Project:
Katy M. Andre*Julia G. Benkoski*Elizabeth Branch*Patricia Cofty*Molly Mayhall*George Noelke*Christina Rumore*Jan Soifer*Ellen Stewart*Erin Thrash
If you would like to join these lawyers in the fight against breast cancer by providing pro bono legal services, please contact Portia Bosse at email@example.com or Trish McAllister at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information or fill out the volunteer form at the end of this newsletter.
Practice Area: Corporate Transactional Attorney; Insurance and Regulatory Employer: Winstead Sechrest & Minick P.C.
Education: I was born and raised in Austin. I graduated from Westlake High School in 1994, Baylor University in 1998 with a B.B.A. in Finance (minor in Spanish), and Baylor Law School in 2003 (with a concentration in Estate Planning).
Family: I met my husband, Salvador Castañeda, my freshman year at Baylor, but we didn’t start dating until our senior year. We got married my first year in law school. His mom said she would plan it for us if we got married in his hometown of Matamoros, Tamaulipas, Mexico, and being a high strung, type-A law student, who really did not want to deal with planning a wedding – during law school or ever – I agreed. I picked out my dress and my shoes and she did EVERYTHING else. It was a blast! We celebrated our 5th anniversary 2 weeks after the birth of our son, Salvador Daniel IV. My father in law, and his father before him, were also named Salvador. Big name for my sweet baby boy. He is now 6 months old and the joy of my life. My dad, Dick Ingram, was from Amarillo, also attended Baylor Law School and was a lobbyist for many years in Austin until his death in 1999. My mother, Beth Glenn, also from Amarillo, now lives in Shreveport, Louisiana, and is an elementary school librarian. My brother, Barrett, lives in Lubbock and is expecting his first child in March. My sister, Brittany, is a freshman at the University of Texas. I have two other sisters, Andrea and Cristina. Andie is a freshman at Westlake, and Cristie is in 7th grade at Hill Country Middle School.
Loves to do: I used to love to run; I was training for a marathon when I got pregnant. In fact, I was supposed to run a half marathon when I was one week pregnant, but I called it off (I was always looking for excuses not to work out and that was a good one!). I also used to love to dance salsa and merengue, but that was before I started dating my husband. He’s not really into dancing so I have to teach my son. Now that we have our son, I love to spend time with him, especially outdoors.
Tidbits: I played rugby at Baylor. Most of my college girlfriends that I keep in touch with were my rugby teammates.
Lawyers and Depression
The serious issue of depression is everywhere and cannot be ignored.
Locally, Judge Mack Kidd, a well-respected Judge and Attorney who suffered from depression, committed suicide over two years ago. The reaction of the Austin legal community was to find a way to help attorneys in Central Texas address and fight depression.
Therefore, the Justice Mack Kidd Fund (“Fund”) was formed and has raised over $20,000.00 to help attorneys receive treatment, including medication. The program was formed to provide short-term treatment and grant a limited amount of funds to attorneys who have no other resources. This amount raised to assist attorneys is attributed in part to Justice Bee Ann Smith, a colleague and close friend of Justice Mack Kidd.
Applicants will be anonymous because only the Texas Lawyers Assistance Program (TLAP) will have the information identifying the applicant. The Trustees of the Fund will not receive any information identifying the applicant but will review the funding request. The funds will never be paid directly to the approved applicant but will be paid directly to the provider who is rendering the treatment.
Austin does not need to lose another attorney to the disease of depression. Many prominent people have had chronic depression, been able to conquer the dark times and accomplish amazing things, including Einstein, Winston Churchill, Abraham Lincoln and Mike Wallace. The most important thing to communicate is that there are resources available; no attorneys should feel that their situation is hopeless.
For general information, individuals should contact TLAP, the State Bar of Texas Program at 1-800-343-8527 or 512-463-1453. Any contributions should be sent to Austin Bar Foundation c/o Justice Mack Kidd Fund, 816 Congress Ave., Suite 700, Austin, TX 78701.
VOLUNTEERS NEEDED AYLA-TCWLA-VLS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE PROJECT
Would you like to make a lasting difference and help someone in need start building a new life? AYLA and the Travis County Women Lawyers’Association is parterning with Volunteer Legal Services for the fourth year of the Domestic Violence Project. Volunteers are needed to handle 2 domestic violence divorce cases on an emergency basis over 2007. “Emergency basis” means a case that needs a response within two weeks, and VLS will attempt to work around your schedule as requested. Participants will be trained by VLS domestic violence experts, and will be given a list of family law mentors that they can call with questions. We need at least 10 volunteer attorneys for this project. Please contact Laurie Higginbotham at email@example.com if you are interested in participating.